How to encourage your toddler to enjoy their food

How to encourage your toddler to enjoy their food

Meal times should be enjoyable for you and your toddler. Yet they can easily turn into battlegrounds if your toddler doesn’t eat what you provide, doesn’t sit still at the table or complains that the food doesn’t taste nice. Between the ages of one and three your toddler will be experiencing an amazing period of growth and development, so it is important that they receive all the extra nutrients needed to support this. This can seem a hard task, especially if your toddler is being fussy, so here are some suggestions to help you make meal times with your toddler successful.

Your Toddler’s Perspective 

The first stage in making meal times better for your toddler is to look at it from their point of view. Consider the following points:

  • The dinner table should be set in pleasant surroundings with as few distractions as possible. Uncomfortable chairs, the wrong cutlery size and a television set blaring in the background does not create a comfortable and relaxing atmosphere.
  • Stress-free. If you arrive at the table in a state of tension because last night you and your toddler had a battle over food, a peaceful meal time is unlikely to happen. No matter what has happened previously, approach meal times in a positive frame of mind. Believe that this time all will go well at the table.
  • Young children can be very particular about the texture of the food they eat. It’s not that your toddler deliberately tries to ruin your dinner plans, they just may need a little time to get used to unfamiliar textures. Some little ones may struggle with lumps in some foods, such as fruit pieces in yoghurt, and also more slimy textures, such as mushrooms. Try changing the texture slowly and subtly, chopping it into slightly larger pieces over time.
  • Be mindful that adults are more accustomed than toddlers to salty and spicy foods. Your child may be wary of new tastes, and might reject your newest culinary creation or reject foods one day that they accepted the previous day. Give your toddler time to adapt to new tastes and experiment with new types of foods and vegetables that are rich in key vitamins and nutrients. To encourage your little ones, get them to try a variety of flavours and persevere, continue to reoffer foods on different days but don’t force your toddler to eat the foods if they do not want to.
  • Avoid over-reacting. If you make a fuss every time your toddler doesn’t finish a meal, they will quickly learn that messing about at meal times is a great way to gain your attention. So stay calm and gently encourage your toddler to eat. Toddlers will stop eating when full so don’t be upset if they don’t eat all the food, but calmly take any excess away.

Steady Progress 

Toddlerhood is an amazing period of growth and development for your child. During this time aim for steady, gradual progress at meal times. Increase the range of foods your toddler eats by gently introducing and offering new textures and tastes each day. Offering a variety of single tastes each day, and repeating this regularly, will help little ones become used to and accept the taste of unfamiliar foods.

Most importantly, make sure to sit with your toddler during meal times. Your company while eating – even if you don’t eat anything yourself at that time – makes the whole eating experience more enjoyable for them. Chat to your toddler throughout the meal and do your best to give them your complete attention at that time. You’ll then find that your child spends less time complaining about the food because they are having such a good time.

annoying people

5 Types of People Who Annoy Me Most as a Parent

Since becoming a parent there are lots of things I have learnt.

One of those things is that no matter how much I love and care for my little one, a lot of the people I come across don’t give a damn about either of us and will always do what they like regardless of who’s about.

annoying people

Here are the 5 types of  people that annoy me the most as a mother.

  1. The Inconsiderate Smoker

The ones that smoke outside the exit of the maternity ward so you have to walk through a cloud of smoke with your day old newborn, the ones that stand outside the door to soft play so you have to walk through a cloud of smoke to get inside and the ones who stand next to the equipment at the park so… you get the point.

I was quite strict with friends and family when Elsa was born and refused to let anyone near her if they had smoked in the last 40 minutes. I know everyone won’t have the same standards as me but there is really no excuse for standing and smoking around other people’s children. If you choose to breathe toxic fumes all over your own kids then it’s still not acceptable (in my opinion) but, sadly, it’s your choice. It is not your choice to inflict your disgusting habits on my child.

  1. The Path Hogger

There are two kinds of path hoggers: the people that walk on a narrow path and then refuse to let you past, forcing you to push your pram into the road and then the people who park their cars so far across the pavement that you can’t fit a pushchair around it*. I have one of the latter on my route to the supermarket, and sometimes I feel like accidentally scratching their car with my pushchair. I don’t though. Promise.

An elderly lady recently allowed me to stay on the pavement while she stepped into the road (nothing was coming) and as I passed her she said ‘More precious than me.’ I was so grateful to her that I wanted to stop and say something, to acknowledge her respect for my childs safety, but it was too late by the time I thought about it.

  1. The Time Undervaluer

It seems to be a common misconception that because I am a stay-at-home mum I stay at home all day. This isn’t true. I take Elsa to groups on three separate days as well as going shopping and out and about to places like the park or meeting up with friends.

For some reason though, not many people seem to appreciate this and so I often find myself sitting around waiting for people. Running a few minutes late? Fine. Drop me a text and I know where I stand. That’s normal, right? Apparently not. These days visitors are quite happy to turn up SEVERAL HOURS later than discussed with absolutely no communication whatsoever. I could have done my food shopping in that time. I could have been for a walk round the lake. Instead I have sat indoors waiting.

I feel like people must think I have nothing better to do, when in actual fact I am busy all the time. It isn’t just waiting for people to turn up either, it’s people assuming they can turn up unannounced or at a time to suit themselves and people who don’t bother to let me know when plans change until the last possible second.

  1. The Bus Seat Stealer

There are fold down seats at the front of the bus which clearly state that they are for ‘parents with buggies or heavy shopping’ and yet everytime I get on a bus I have to ask someone with neither of those things to move. JUST DON’T SIT THERE IN THE FIRST PLACE. Seriously. Why anyone without a wheelchair or a pram would ever choose to sit in those seats when there are others available is beyond me.

I can understand that perhaps elderly people like to be nearer the front, but there are dedicated seats for them too. Most buses only carry two pushchairs unfolded so it’s hard enough for parents to use public transport as it is, without having to battle stubborn seat stealers.

  1. Sweary McLairy

This one really winds me up. We’ve probably all been there; you are out for a nice stroll with your little one(s) when out of nowhere comes an outburst of profanity. Now I am the sort of person who is aware of my surroundings; I know who/what is nearby and therefore I can adjust my behaviour accordingly. I would never start shouting ‘effing this and effing that’ in the middle of the street regardless of who was about, but even if I was the sort of person to mouth off in public I certainly wouldn’t do it when there are children about. I don’t teach my kids to talk that way so how dare other people think it is okay to expose them to that kind of language?!

I also hate it when I overhear a parent swearing at a child. It makes me incredibly sad that people are raising their children to think it is acceptable to talk to another person in that way.

So there we have it! I’m not a miserable cow (well, sometimes I am) but I really can’t stand it when people don’t respect parents and children.

I must give a special mention to the people who park in the parent and child spaces when they have no children, as well as the ones who insist on touching my child’s face and telling me how lovely she is. I know she is lovely, but there is really no need for you to freak her out by invading her personal space. Thanks.

Do you agree with any of these? What annoys you since becoming a parent?


How to Establish a Toddler Bedtime Routine

I have been speaking to a few mums recently and reading on some forums about bedtimes and i was shocked to find that some don’t have a routine or a schedule. We adopted a bedtime routine really quickly when Christina became a toddler, up until that point we would just wait for his last feed, put him in bed and hope for the best. Now Lily is a toddler that routine has continued and both children settle really well. Our routine is consistent and predictable and gives them plenty of time to relax and wind down from the day.

5.30pm Bathtime (We dont have bath time every night, we try and keep to every other night for a Bath)
6.00pm Last drink and cooldown time (Calm TV, bedtime story’s, lots of cuddles)
6.30pm Get dressed in our PJ’s and more cool down time
7.00pm Brush our teeth and have a small drink of water, final nappy change for Lily, say goodnight and lights out in bedrooms.
7.15pm Lights out on landing

Its really important that we take part in their routine, they just dont settle if we ask them to sit on the sofa and watch TV while we tidy the house, but if we sit with them and give them a cuddle they sit nicely and calm down.They still test the limits after they have gone to bed, James asks 20 questions and our answers are always consistent.

Can i have some water? You have just had a drink of water darling.
Can i have some calpol? No Christina, Calpol is only for when you are poorly.
Can i have my turtle? Hes already in your bed, can you find him?

Lily climbs back out of bed but doesn’t normally cry, we found if we leave her for 5 minutes then she just settles to sleep when we put her back in bed. If we respond to her any sooner, she just climbs back out of bed again!

Bedtime Routine Chart



How much food should I be feeding my toddler?

How much food should I be feeding my toddler? What types of food should I be feeding my toddler and why?


Meal time battles are a recurring theme in the toddler years. At soft play the other day, the mums were discussing how much their toddlers ate at mealtimes. One child hardly stopped eating and his mum was worried he was getting too much, while another said her son didn’t eat meals but asked for snacks. My own 6-year old, Christina, eats like a horse one day, then refuses food the next. How much is enough? Or too much?

While doing my Dietetics training, we were always taught that a healthy toddler won’t starve so it’s best to respond to their needs rather than force food on them. According to US research, toddlers can sense the calorie content of foods and adapt how much they need to eat. One study offered toddlers three yogurt drinks which tasted and looked the same but differed in terms of calories. The toddlers drank more of the low calorie yogurts but less of the high calorie yogurts, ending up with roughly the same calories each time.

So, for calories, toddlers know what they need. That means we have to resist the urge to tell them to clear their plates or eat at a particular time of day. And because they have a small stomach size, toddlers need ‘little and often’ so it’s fine to offer healthy snacks, like cheese on biscuits, breadsticks, toast and honey, yogurt or fruit.

However, one nutrient that toddlers certainly need in larger quantities is vitamin D. According to the government’s national nutrition survey, UK toddlers are getting less than a third of the vitamin D they need for healthy bone development. And with the bad summer weather in the UK, it’s likely that many toddlers were not able to top up their vitamin D stores from sun exposure – the main way that we get our vitamin D.

Amazingly, 8 out of ten parents are still unaware that their toddlers need specific amounts of vitamin D, according to a survey by Growing Up Milk Info. So, my top tips for improving vitamin D intakes are:

  • Give your toddler a daily children’s supplement of vitamins A, C and D
  • Offer two 150ml beakers of Growing Up Milk daily – this provides more than 70% of your child’s vitamin D recommendation
  • Serve up foods which are rich in vitamin D, such as salmon, trout, tuna, eggs, red meat, fortified breakfast cereals and yogurts
  • As summer sunshine should provide around 90% of our vitamin D stores, make sure your toddler gets out to play as often as possible.

What’s your experience of meal time battles? Or is your toddler an angel at the table? Let me know.

books you have to read

7 books people have been telling me that I must read

pinterest books to read

There seems to be a ton of books around at the moment that just about everyone except me has read and I am seeing recommendations for the same things all the time. For this weeks list I decided to talk about the books I have been told I must read and also the ones that seem to be on everyone’s ‘oh-my-gosh-you-have-to-read-this-book-right-now’ lists. Some of these I actually don’t really want to read but according to the world you haven’t lived if you haven’t read them so I might get around to it eventually.

To Kill a Mockingbird – Harper Lee1.\ To Kill a Mockingbird – Harper Lee
So after last weeks TTT I got a lot of comments on here and Twitter telling me I absolutely have to read this book. Luckily, a Twitter pal is sending me her copy! Book bloggers are so nice I really hope this book is as good as everyone says it is. Watch this space for a review!

The Fault in Our Stars – John Green2.\ The Fault in Our Stars – John Green
I don’t even know why I haven’t already read this. I think I’m having a bit of an ‘everyone is reading it so I’m not going to’ moment, kind of like I did with…

Twilight – Stephenie Meyer3.\ Twilight – Stephenie Meyer
Apparently it’s good if you give it a chance and I will definitely like it. I highly doubt it.

Anna and the French Kiss – Stephanie Perkins4.\ Anna and the French Kiss – Stephanie Perkins
Very excited about this one. I’ve bought it and it’s ready to go. I’ve heard so many great things about this and the other two books.

Eleanor & Park – Rainbow Rowell5.\ Eleanor & Park – Rainbow Rowell
Everyone and his wife raves about Eleanor & Park. In fact, everyone and his wife is also raving about every other book written by Rainbow Rowell. I have never read any of them but I think I’m the only person who hasn’t.

1984 – George Orwell6.\ 1984 – George Orwell
I’m always faced with that look of utter shock when I tell people I have never read this book and then they insist that I need to rectify it. I tried to read it once but I didn’t get very far.

Ugly Love – Colleen Hoover7.\ Ugly Love – Colleen Hoover
My Twitter feed nearly broke a few weeks ago because so many people were declaring their love for this book.
Yeah, so that was only seven. I think that means that I don’t get enough recommendations from people and therefore you should all leave me lots in the comments.

what is clean eating

10 Steps to Convert your Family to Cleaner Eating- The Gradual Method

10 Steps to Convert your Family to Cleaner Eating- The Gradual Method

A typical clean eating dinner for us

what is clean eating

Over the last year, my family has been slowly converting to cleaner eating habits. In the past month we have even switched to mostly organic or locally raised animal products. This was prompted by a number of reasons, but first and foremost because we had a death in our family from a terrible and aggressive form of cancer. Over the past year we have spent countless hours researching and gathering information related to cancer, and disease in general. This led us to begin learning about how our food plays such an important role in our health and priming our bodies in the best way to fight infection and disease. I am not implying that this particular form of cancer could have been prevented, but I am a strong believer in giving my body (and my family’s) the best chances at health and longevity.
What is clean eating? Everyone probably has their own definition, but in my opinion, clean eating is about eating whole food, or REAL food. That is food that is un-refined, minimally processed, and as organic as possible, and eating these foods as close to their natural form as possible.

Having 1 kid under the age of 8 made this no small feat, but if you are interested in starting this food transformation, no matter how big or small, here are some ways to get you started:

1. Do it GRADUALLY. Do not take a black garbage bag and start throwing out every processed food in your house. I know this makes for dramatic TV, but honestly, who wants to throw out perfectly good food that costs money when you can do things slowly. Replace 1 item at a time with a healthier choice. Or decide “we don’t eat that in our house anymore because it’s not healthy”. Run out of regular yogurt? Buy an organic, low- sugar version instead. Run out of Lucky Charms? Stay clear of this sugar laden marshmallow mess. I would say this process took about 4 months (We had a lot of pantry items stockpiled so it probably took longer than an average person)

2. Make some hard and fast rules for yourself and your family. Your family may have different rules than someone else, and that’s OK. This is not one size fits all. You need to decide what you will eat most of the time, some of the time for a treat, and never. And stick to it. In our house, snacks that are regularly available and requested everyday are organic apples, nuts, dried cranberries, hummus, organic yogurt with my homemade granola on top, bananas, applesauce, or certain types of cereal. Things my kids may eat SOME of the time as a treat: tortilla chips and salsa, cheese, a handful of dark chocolate chips, or air-popped popcorn. Things we absolutely do not buy or eat anymore: processed snack foods, processed baked good, candy, chips, anything with dyes or artificial colors, or pretty much anything that come out of a bag or box that has more than 8 ingredients.

3. Don’t buy junk! I know this seems like common sense so why write it down… but if you don’t buy it, there is NO chance anyone in your house will eat it. Don’t buy cookies “just in case someone wants one” because they will end up being eaten! We do not buy processed snack foods, and you know what? My kids NEVER ask for it, because it doesn’t exist in our home.

4. This one is important- introduce your children to clean healthy food as young as you can. Give them healthy food over and over again. Give them a choice between 2 healthy foods and they will be excited about the choice. DO NOT say “Would you rather have a salad or pizza?” because what what do you think they will choose? Americans tend to think all children should live on a diet of chicken nuggets, hot dogs, and macaroni and cheese. In other countries, children are given food considered to be for adults at young ages and they learn to love them. Give your kids some credit- they will likely enjoy food that you didn’t think they would. (For the record, my kids think hot dogs are disgusting, and so do I!)

5. Do yourself a big favor- start giving your children soup. SOUP? Sound strange? Soup is one of the easiest ways to get clean food into your diet. Both of my children started eating soup around the age of 2 (Obviously with help) and now will basically eat any type of soup you can think of- turkey chili, check. Chicken vegetable, check. Chicken meatballs and kale, check. This list goes on and on, and the possibilities are endless. Homemade soup is so much better than canned (which is loaded with salt and preservatives, but that’s a whole other blog topic)

6. If you don’t love to cook, at least learn to like it. It’s extremely difficult to eat in a clean way if you rely on store bought foods. At least start by making simple things, like a roast organic chicken, vegetable frittata (it’s much easier than it sounds), salads, or roasted vegetables. Then use the same technique over and over again. You can pretty much roast any vegetable and it’s delicious.

7. Do your research. There are thousands of healthy and clean recipes out there if you search for them. I love Pinterest! (Follow me on Pinterest @SuburbanMomLife) I love finding recipes and trying them out. My family members serve as my taste testers for all new recipes. Some are big winners, others not so much.

8. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. My children love to try things and then pretend they are on a food competition show (Normal comment out of my 7 year old: “This tastes good, but the presentation is boring and it needs more acid” I am not kidding on this point.). I consider myself a very good home cook, but I have made some not-so-delicious meals. My taste testing family will just tell me they didn’t like it, and move on. Just don’t make it again!

9. Make it FUN! Involve your children to try new foods, let them wash vegetables or stir soup on the stove. This whole process was not a drag on us, and my kids did not feel deprived in any way. The ultimate goal is to arm children with the knowledge and tools needed to make healthy choices when they are older and you are no longer in control of what they eat.

10. Learn to read ingredient labels closely. There are some products which you may think are not processed and sound healthy. Look at the label- it may be a chemical nightmare. Here is a typical grocery store granola bar:

There are 42 ingredients in here- 42! And many of them are chemicals! You should ideally be buying foods with less than 8 ingredients on the label. Or better yet- NO LABEL- because meat, eggs, vegetables, fruit, and many other “clean” eating foods, don’t have labels!

There is so much more to his topic than I can possibly write about here. But if you are looking for somewhere to start, you have found it! Stay tuned for recipes and many more tips! What are your favorite “clean eating” recipes? I would love to hear them so I can try them out.



Applesauce Cake

I use the crock-pot a lot. It is definitely a time-saving essential for me. Breaking away from twins to cook a hot meal is probably the hardest thing in my routine. So, throwing everything into one pot and letting it sit there all day helps me immensely.  I was getting bored of making the same old things all the time, so I busted out my trusty recipe binder (a collection of recipes I have ripped out of magazines/newspapers for culinary inspiration) and stumbled upon a gem – a dessert recipe I could make in the crock-pot?! I originally was interested in the meatball stew recipe that was on the same page.

I made it a few years ago and it came out great. I guess I just wasn’t into the cake or didn’t notice because I was excited about the meatballs, but when I saw it this time around I couldn’t wait to make it! I LOVE desserts, but don’t have much time these days to make the homemade brownies and cakes I used to. I had almost all of the ingredients on hand for this recipe and it was super simple to throw together. It came out delicious and is the perfect dessert on a cold winter night!

Applesauce Cake
Makes: 8 servings
Prep: 15 minutes
Slow Cook: 2¼ to 2½ hours

What you need:
Applesauce Cake 1

Crock-Pot/Slow cooker
Nonstick cooking spray
Nonstick foil
1½ cups all-purpose flour
1½ teaspoons pumpkin pie spice
1 teaspoon baking soda
1 teaspoon baking powder
¼ teaspoon salt
5 tablespoons unsalted butter, softened
½ cup light brown sugar
1 egg
¼ cup buttermilk
1 cup unsweetened applesauce  
Topping: Bottled caramel sauce whipped topping pecans (optional)

What you do:

1. Coat the slow cooker bowl with nonstick cooking spray. Place 1 long sheet in the bottom of the slow cooker bowl with the ends hanging over the handles.

2. Whisk together flour, pumpkin pie spice, baking soda, baking powder, and salt; set aside.
Applesauce Cake 2

  1. Beat together butter and brown sugar on high speed for 1 minute. Beat in egg. Scrape down sides of bowl and on low speed beat in buttermilk (mixture will look curdled). Beat in applesauce. Add the flour mixture to bowl and beat on low speed until combined.
    Applesauce Cake 3
  2. Spread batter into slow cooker. Place a clean dish towel over slow cooker and put cover on top. Cook on HIGH for 2¼ to 2½ hours or until toothpick inserted in center comes out clean.
    Applesauce Cake 4
  3. Use foil handles to lift cake out of slow cooker.
    Applesauce Cake 5
  4. Let cool. Cut into slices and garnish with caramel sauce, whipped topping, and pecans if desired.

    Applesauce Cake 6

                                     (This recipe is from Family Circle’s Sept. ’09 issue)


I found this great website that has a few different substitutions for buttermilk using common household ingredients that are probably already in the pantry. This saved me the time and money it would have took going to the store to purchase a carton of buttermilk that I would have used for this recipe. The rest of it would have gone bad in my fridge. I used the lemon juice because I had some on hand. I have used this technique before and you would never notice the buttermilk was missing.

Reheat leftovers in the microwave for 15 seconds and tastes like it just came out of the crock-pot!

Hope you enjoy this recipe! Let us know how it comes out!


Disciplining other people’s childrer


I told someone else’s child off today. It’s not as bad as it sounds, honest. I decided to take Christina to soft play for a couple of hours to burn off some energy . We had a lovely time but we managed to attract the attention of a little boy who decided to follow us around. I’m not the best at guessing ages but he was a fair bit older than Christina, so I placed him at around seven. The center that we went to is split into two, so there is an Under 5’s play zone and then the main frame. Little ones can use the big equipment but they aren’t allowed on the slides. We stuck mostly to the area for younger children aside from a quick peek inside the other bit where Christina was telling me all the colours she could see. Usually at this kind of place you have an area for babies and toddlers, and then the main play area for everyone else. I think that Under 5’s seems a bit off really. There is such a huge difference between a 4 year old and a 1 year old, I don’t really see how they can play safely together in such a small space. I suppose when your child is at the in betweeny stage it can be quite difficult to know which bit to let them play on, because they are too big for the baby area but still a bit little to play with the big kids. Anyway, this little boy was there with his mum, dad and baby sister. The mum left very early on and so the dad was left in charge of the baby and the little boy, who at this point was running off all over the place. The baby was having a bottle so the dad was giving her his full attention and then when she fell asleep he got out a book and sat reading that instead of keeping an eye on his son. I smiled my way through the boy hitting me and throwing balls from the ball pit. I did glance over at his dad when he decided to start punching me in the legs but he was far too engrossed in his book to even notice. I figured so long as the boy wasn’t escaping from the building or causing harm to anyone then I could just ignore his slightly aggressive behaviour and enjoy playing with Christina. However the boy decided he was going to get in the ball pit with all the babies and toddlers and use his head like a snow plough to push everything, including Christina, out of the way.

Now I am not an over-protective mother when it comes to letting Christina play with other children. When kids are playing and they bump into each other, or get into a fight over a toy I am inclined to let them get on with it. However, this boy was deliberately ramming my child out of the way with his head. She was already wary of him because he had knocked into her a couple of times and at this point I had had enough.

I don’t mind accidents and I’m not going to intervene if I don’t think it’s necessary but he almost toppled her over and he was doing it on purpose because nobody was telling him not to. I didn’t shout at him and I certainly didn’t attempt to pick him up or move him in any way. What I did was pick up my daughter and say something (quite firmly, but not in a particularly raised voice) along the lines of ‘You are a lot bigger than the other children. Calm down now.’ That was it. I appreciate that, to him at least, he was playing and I’m sure he wasn’t a bad kid so I didn’t want to upset him but at the same time he needed to know that he should be careful around smaller children. Some of the other mums looked really embarrassed when I spoke up but I didn’t care.

They had children even younger than Christina and had I not said anything he could have easily turned his attention to them and they wouldn’t have been as resistant as Christina. She can hold her own pretty well which is one of the reasons I don’t usually get involved, but sometimes I think you have to. As far as I am concerned if a child is putting either Christina or another child (including themselves) at risk of harm then I will always jump in if there is nobody else around. If I am closest to a little one on a ride-on toy at Toddler Sense and they start to fall backwards, I will catch them. I won’t step in if their parent is on hand, but if no one is near enough to help or too busy to see then I will and I’m not going to apologise for that. After the little incident the boy went to play on the bigger equipment and his dad carried on reading his book throughout the whole thing. It must have been good. I was quite cross with him really. I know I only had one child to supervise but surely if you’ve got two you work out some way of looking after both, rather than letting one run riot while you chill out because the other one is asleep? I don’t know. Maybe I am in the wrong. What I do know is that I feel a bit sorry for that little boy really. Later on he jumped on a ride with some other kids and he was being silly standing up. The other parents were saying things like ‘who does he belong to?’ and the dad wasn’t even looking in the direction of the ride.

He could easily have fallen off and the adult responsible for him wouldn’t have even noticed. Why don’t parents keep a closer eye on their children, especially when they are playing with others? If they trust their kids to be able to play by themselves then that’s their decision but when it comes to other children there surely needs to be some kind of supervision. I would never let Christina run around with a load of smaller kids without making sure I was nearby to keep an eye on things. Isn’t that part of being a parent?


Would you intervene in a similar situation, and would you have had a word with the parent? I didn’t but I feel like someone should have!



30 Life Lessons I Want My Child To Learn

The older my son gets, I realize the days grow closer to him being an adult and leaving my watchful eye. I keep trying to convince myself that we have more time together than we really do.  But one day he will be grown, and leading a productive life away from home.  I’m not at all done with his childhood, and yet I’ve become increasingly aware that he is.  Every day he displays so much more independence, and constantly wants to know more and more about “what grown-ups do”.  It’s then that I realize there is so much more that Ineed and want to tell him.  So much more to teach him about the world.

So in no particular order, here are 30 things that I intend on telling/teaching my son before he is grown and away from home.

  1. Don’t be afraid to stick up for yourself and your beliefs.  Once you know what you stand for, stand your ground.  But remember to be respectful of other people’s beliefs as well.
  2. You are capable of handling more than you think.
  3. Know your worth.
  4. Accept others for who they are.  Everyone is your EQUAL.  Regardless of race, religion, sexual orientation, size, shape or job success.
  5. Be confident in who YOU are…even if you are faking it.  
  6. Winning isn’t everything.  Remember that you just need to try your best.  That’s all that matters.
  7. Showing emotion isn’t a sign of weakness.  Sometimes the things you fight so hard for will fail you, and sometimes you will lose.  It’s okay to cry.  It doesn’t make you weak or unworthy.
  8. Doing what’s right and what’s easy are rarely the same thing.
  9. ‘No’ means ‘No’ and that’s non-negotiable.
  10. Don’t take life so seriously.  You are human.  Laugh at yourself.  Be humble.
  11. Seek every positive experience you can.  The world is a big place with so many fascinating experiences to see and discover.  However, these things won’t fall out of the sky into your lap.  You have to go out and find them.
  12. Money doesn’t make a man.  There is way more to life than money.
  13. Always be kind-Always.
  14. Never stop asking questions.  
  15. Be brave enough to admit you need help.  When you are in need, no matter what type of help you require, don’t ever be afraid to admit you need it and ask for it.
  16. You get, what you give.  You can’t sit around with your hand out while doing nothing.  Giving to others is one of the greatest pleasures in life.
  17. Don’t let fear hold you back from accomplishing anything in life.
  18. Trust is earned, and once it’s broken, it’s really hard to gain back.
  19. When it comes to love, wait for the one you can’t live without.  3>
  20. Learn to say ‘I’m sorry’.
  21. Life isn’t always fair.  Learn to let things go.
  22. Don’t be afraid to say ‘I love you’.
  23. Never raise a hand to a woman. Or a child.  Just no.
  24. You cannot please everyone, and it’s not your job to try.  It’s impossible to please every single person.  Your job is to be YOU, and do what makes YOU happy and healthy.
  25. Own your mistakes.
  26. Don’t waste precious time on regret and worry.
  27. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes.
  28. Take only what you deserve.  Even though it’s easy to take credit for someone else’s work, only take the credit you deserve.  Everyone is trying to make their own path, just like you.  Don’t take that away from anyone.
  29. Follow your dreams.  Not the dreams I have for you or the dreams anyone else has for you-but what YOU dream of.  Follow your own path, not one someone else has laid out for you.
  30. Wherever you are in life, you can always come home.  I will be here-Always.

What life lessons do you think are important to teach your children?  What would you add to this list?


5 Things You Wish You’d Known About Being a Parent


This week is 5 things you wish you’d known about being a parent. Oh my, what don’t I wish I had known? You think you are prepared and everyone tells you that your life will change, but you just don’t get it till you are holding that baby in your arms. Here we go…..

1) How much my life would change! I know people told us it would and we just laughed and said yes we know. But oh no we did not know! There is no way to describe this to parents to be. Just like there is no way to describe what labor will be like. Trust me I begged  women to tell me what it was going to be like. I do not like being unprepared, but both being a parent and giving birth are just something that I don’t think you can be totally prepared for.

2) That your kids really will grow up too quickly. Enjoy them when they are little. Take time to snuggle them and hug them. Really be there in the present time with them instead of worrying about tomorrow.

3) I wish I had known that my boys would have such a big piece of my heart. How do you describe how your heart can ache for your child when they are hurt or when you think of them being all grown up? I wish there was a way to put this into words, but like so many things that have to do with parenting it is something that you have to experience.

4) As much as it pains me to admit this, there is no such thing as a perfect parent. We are human and we make mistakes. How I wish I could be the perfect Mom and never make a mistake when it comes to my boys. But as hard as I try I always seem to fumble.

5) Enjoy time with the hubby without the responsibility of children. We took for granted all the times we could just get up and go do whatever we wanted. All that changes once you have kids. We had Corbin 2 months after our 1st anniversary.

What are 5 things you wish you’d known about being a parent???